I Purged My Phone Of Every Guy Who’s Mistreated Me And It Was Eye Opening New phone who's this?

I had a bad day today. It was raining and when I walked outside to get to work this morning I realized my umbrella was broken. I turned around and climbed back up the three floor walk up to get a different one. Guess what – that one ended up being broken too. Perfect.


I just had a bad case of the Mondays. One of those days when everything is getting you annoyed and you just feel like you need a hug. And to top it all off, the boy I like ignored my text message – again. So glad he’s always there for me *eye roll.*


So naturally, I was feeling super emo when I got home. I poured myself a glass of wine, grabbed my sketchbook, and drew a picture of a girl in distress. I don’t do this that often but I was in a mood and I decided to just roll with it.


I never have the attention span to ever finish my drawings though. I get about three quarters of the way through and then get bored.


That’s when I saw this instagram that Elite Daily posted. A tweet by Sheena Sharma saying, “Delete the phone numbers of all the guys who have ever treated you badly.”


“Hmm intriguing,” I thought. What if I actually did that? How many people would it be? I quickly realized that there is zero reason why I need any of these guys numbers, grabbed my phone, and decided to purge this thing of assholes. Naturally I kept a tally along the way just as an experiment.


As I was going through, it was interesting to look back on the memories I have with these people and take note of  who I decided was worthy of staying in my contacts. I definitely noticed a pattern in my behavior. Anyone who apologized to me for treating me badly got to stay. I found myself shrugging off whatever disagreement we might of had and thinking, “Nahh he’s good.”


Then there were the people who exchanged numbers with me but never texted, or were just never nice (mostly all guys from college). These guys all got deleted without giving it much thought.


The people who made me the most angry were the guys who owed me a conversation but instead just chose to ignore the situation. The guys who just stopped answering out of fear of communicating how they feel. Thinking back on those memories just didn’t feel good. There’s been a lot of things left unsaid and it felt liberating to delete them.


But then on the flip side, I also took the opportunity to self reflect. The fact that there were quite a few of these guys who just blew me off got me to thinking that I might be going about relationships the wrong way sometimes. I need to stop letting these guys walk all over me. More thoughts on that later….


But basically, the entire situation was eye opening. I got to do an emotional cleanse, take note of something about myself, and detox out my emo moment. It ended up being 17 guys deleted. Out of 570 contacts collected over the past 10 years, I guess that’s not that bad? I don’t know, I’ll leave that out there for interpretation.


I highly recommend everyone do this. If you think about it, nothing bad can come out of it. Worst case scenario, someone who you chose to delete (because they deserve it!) texts you and you get to say “New phone who dis?” Which haha SURPRISE is also the best case scenario!



  • November 22, 2016

    It always feels good to delete a number from someone in the past that isnt apart of your life anymore if its for the best!

  • November 22, 2016

    Wow, you go girl. I do this every once in a while, or I just never added the phone number of a guy who treated me badly in the first place. I always figured if they had my number, they would reach out if they were a decent guy. Eliminating those people from your life does make you feel a little better since you’re essentially deleting them IRL.

  • November 23, 2016

    This is a great way to purge negativity out of your life! You go girl!

    Greta | http://www.gretahollar.com

  • November 23, 2016

    This is something that I feel like everyone should do! Just make a new with those who have wronged you! I’m all about New Phone, Who Dis?

  • November 23, 2016

    Deleting numbers can be so fulfilling if that person doesn’t deserve to be in your life anymore. Glad that this was healing for you 🙂

    xoxo A

  • Elana
    November 23, 2016

    This is such a good idea! I should totally do this!

  • November 23, 2016

    Deleting numbers of toxic people is so needed and refreshing!


  • November 24, 2016

    This is a really interesting idea. I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years, so I don’t have a lot of these experiences or people in my phone, but I can imagine that it would be really freeing. I’m glad you had this experience and I’ll be sharing this post with a few friends of mine!

  • Shane Prather
    November 25, 2016

    I’ve done this after quitting dating apps- so refreshing!

  • November 26, 2016

    You go girl! I know this can be a hard thing to do, but I’m glad you did it!

    XO, Brooke

  • November 28, 2016

    This is awesome! I did this a long time ago (when i was single) and it seriously changed my view on things! It’s so important to cut negative aspects of your life!

  • adriana
    November 28, 2016

    This is such a good idea!! It must have felt so good to do this, I love this idea!

  • December 6, 2016

    This is so interesting! I need to do this!

    The Blush Blonde

  • December 7, 2016

    It’s so healthy to do an occasional purge. Definitely need to remember this.

  • December 17, 2016

    Intsghis like this liven things up around here.

  • December 17, 2016

    Tha’ts going to make things a lot easier from here on out.

  • April 18, 2017

    Kudos! What a neat way of thniinkg about it.

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