This New Thing I’m Trying Called Optimism and Positivity Spoiler Alert: Negativity sucks the fun out of everything

Lately I’ve been on this new kick where I’m deciding to be continuously optimistic. It’s not actually a new kick, because I’d like to think that I’ve always been optimistic, but I’m more aware of it lately and trying to really focus on positivity and make the absolute best of my life.

I don’t mean that I’m one of those annoying people who are constantly happy allllll the time, because anyone who knows me knows I could be pretty cynical. I am definitely not all sunshines and rainbows all the time, but being optimistic doesn’t have to mean never acknowledging when something sucks. Every day is hard and we deserve to be able to indulge in some self loathing sometimes, but the point is to recognize how great life is overall and how many good things are around the corner.

To me, optimism and positivity are umbrella terms that cover a few different bases. It’s not just finding the silver lining when things get bad because that honestly doesn’t help sometimes. It’s being totally aware of the situations around you and choosing to act in a way that will affect your life positively – especially when things get bad. Here are a few things I take into consideration when I think about what optimism means:

 

It means saving your energy for things that make you happy.

Negativity is draining and gets you into an emotional rut. When you actively choose to focus on the good, you’re giving yourself the freedom to focus on yourself and make yourself happy.

 

It means holding yourself to a high standard and making sure to reach your full potential.

If you believe that good things are ahead, it’s motivation to do your best to achieve your goals. Nothing comes easily but we all have the power to live the lives we want to live. Setting small, achievable goals every day really helps. Some weeks my goal is as simple as making my bed every day. I swear I feel like a rockstar when I do it.

 

It means choosing to be kind and believing in the good in people until they give you a reason not to.

You can’t expect people to treat you a certain way unless you set the example of your expectation. The way that you act towards others sets the tone for the connections you make throughout your entire lifetime. It’s worth it to stay on good terms with people and try to build strong, lasting relationships with whoever you meet. But I also think it’s important to identify the people who aren’t worth your time.

 

Overall, I think that being generally self-aware is a big part of all of this. We need to recognize the impact we have on others and the impact that others have on us. We need to be aware of the situations surrounding us that have an affect on our lives and actively try to steer ourselves in the direction that will make us the most happy. Life is too short to not live it to your highest potential. There’s too much out there to be enjoyed to waste any time harping on negativity.

 

I’m not writing this to try to preach or tell people how to live. I’m not even sure that anything I’m writing is actually true. I have no idea if 10 years from now I’ll look back and think living this way was actually worth my time. I’m definitely in no position to give anyone any advice. I’m just trying to live the type of life I won’t regret and documenting how I’m doing it. Basically, I just want to dance as much as possible because life’s great. I welcome you to join me. Do with this what you will…

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20 Comments
  • November 21, 2016

    I love this- I tend to be a pretty positive person but it’s always good to have a little reminder!

    xoxo,
    Katie
    chicincarolina.blogspot.com

  • November 22, 2016

    Yes! Being positive and optimistic is so important. I stress this to my boyfriend so much who gets very easily annoyed. 🙂

    xo // http://www.thematerialgirl.co

  • November 22, 2016

    I do have my days but positivity is the way to go.

  • November 22, 2016

    I love this post! Positivity is key for a great day sometimes. It’s hard to get there but once you’re in that mindset life turns around

  • November 22, 2016

    Being positive is so important! It gives you a whole new outlook on your everyday life and helps keep things in s healthy perspective!

    Mindy II AMIXOFMIN.COM

  • November 22, 2016

    Easier said than done! But, staying positive is key to living a happier, healthier life. Thanks for the reminder during this chaotic time of year.

    XO // easilyinspired-blog.com

  • November 22, 2016

    I don’t think I’m a naturally optimistic person but over the past few years I’ve implemented some of the things you’ve talked about here and I find that they really do work. There are always positives to any situation, we just have to look for them!

  • November 22, 2016

    Positivity can be hard, but it is often worth it. Great post!
    -Anna | http://www.fivefootandfabulous.com

  • November 22, 2016

    I agree 100% that negativity is draining! I strive to be continuously optimistic and to remind myself that there is no point in dwelling on things that are out of my control. Keep up the optimism! You’ll be amazed at just how much your mindset will change 🙂

    XO, SS || Seersucker Sass

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    November 22, 2016

    I am very optimistic and my best friend is one of those annoying people who is happy all the time. I think being optimistic is beneficial for me because I believe that my dreams can come true and a lot of them have.

  • November 22, 2016

    ugh much needed read! thank you so much! x, ken http://sincerelykenz.com

  • November 23, 2016

    I’ve been trying to do this a lot lately too – you’re right about the negativity being draining. I find I’m way more energetic and motivated than I was. I will admit though, I have some rough days! a good follow-up to this post would be telling your readers what you do to pick yourself up when you’re struggling…I’d love to hear about it! x, nicole // http://www.nicoleeigh.com

  • November 23, 2016

    Pushing positivity is never a bad thing! I’m trying to do that with my partner trying to find a new job, I know its negative for him, but I’m trying to help him be positive about it!

  • November 24, 2016

    This is great!! I’ve been trying to work on being more positive and have a better outlook on life!
    xoxo,
    Amy | Pastel N Pink

  • November 24, 2016

    I love this post, I’ve been trying to be more optimistic about everything too! Such a great message!

    xo
    Sami
    ww.theclassicbrunette.com

  • November 24, 2016

    This is a great perspective and something I really needed to read! My goal for next year is to think positive!

  • November 25, 2016

    I try so hard to be optimistic, but sometimes I can’t drag myself out of negative thinking. Especially if it’s about things that are uncertain or scary because I’m nearly always preparing myself for the worst! Good luck keeping up the positive thinking, it’s definitely not easy! 🙂

    Kayla | kaylablogs.com

  • June 17, 2017

    Oh my god! I feel like I’m finding every post related to a post I just did a few weeks ago today! I love this post and I actually started the same plan for myself recently and made a whole blog post about it (skeptically, because I thought people would scoff past it), but I’m so happy I’m not the only one with these thoughts!

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