This New Thing I’m Trying Called Optimism and Positivity Spoiler Alert: Negativity sucks the fun out of everything
Lately I’ve been on this new kick where I’m deciding to be continuously optimistic. It’s not actually a new kick, because I’d like to think that I’ve always been optimistic, but I’m more aware of it lately and trying to really focus on positivity and make the absolute best of my life.
I don’t mean that I’m one of those annoying people who are constantly happy allllll the time, because anyone who knows me knows I could be pretty cynical. I am definitely not all sunshines and rainbows all the time, but being optimistic doesn’t have to mean never acknowledging when something sucks. Every day is hard and we deserve to be able to indulge in some self loathing sometimes, but the point is to recognize how great life is overall and how many good things are around the corner.
To me, optimism and positivity are umbrella terms that cover a few different bases. It’s not just finding the silver lining when things get bad because that honestly doesn’t help sometimes. It’s being totally aware of the situations around you and choosing to act in a way that will affect your life positively – especially when things get bad. Here are a few things I take into consideration when I think about what optimism means:
It means saving your energy for things that make you happy.
Negativity is draining and gets you into an emotional rut. When you actively choose to focus on the good, you’re giving yourself the freedom to focus on yourself and make yourself happy.
It means holding yourself to a high standard and making sure to reach your full potential.
If you believe that good things are ahead, it’s motivation to do your best to achieve your goals. Nothing comes easily but we all have the power to live the lives we want to live. Setting small, achievable goals every day really helps. Some weeks my goal is as simple as making my bed every day. I swear I feel like a rockstar when I do it.
It means choosing to be kind and believing in the good in people until they give you a reason not to.
You can’t expect people to treat you a certain way unless you set the example of your expectation. The way that you act towards others sets the tone for the connections you make throughout your entire lifetime. It’s worth it to stay on good terms with people and try to build strong, lasting relationships with whoever you meet. But I also think it’s important to identify the people who aren’t worth your time.
Overall, I think that being generally self-aware is a big part of all of this. We need to recognize the impact we have on others and the impact that others have on us. We need to be aware of the situations surrounding us that have an affect on our lives and actively try to steer ourselves in the direction that will make us the most happy. Life is too short to not live it to your highest potential. There’s too much out there to be enjoyed to waste any time harping on negativity.
I’m not writing this to try to preach or tell people how to live. I’m not even sure that anything I’m writing is actually true. I have no idea if 10 years from now I’ll look back and think living this way was actually worth my time. I’m definitely in no position to give anyone any advice. I’m just trying to live the type of life I won’t regret and documenting how I’m doing it. Basically, I just want to dance as much as possible because life’s great. I welcome you to join me. Do with this what you will…